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Some Easy Steps

§  Stay busy and focused

§  Take a cold shower

§  Make a plan to avoid your normal “go-to” time of the day

§  Limit being alone

§  Stay away from pornography

§  Be persistent and patient

§  Don’t punish yourself

§  Know it will get better

§  Get professional help if you need it

§  Go to bed early and get lots of sleep

§  Eat plenty of healthy carbs and drink lots of water

§  Exercise

§  Develop your brain

§  Fasting (not eating food for 2 meals one day a week)

§  Pray

§  Don’t focus on fighting masturbating

§  Forgive yourself

§  Forgive others

§  Say no to others (when they lead you to do things that violate the tips above)

§  Write in a daily gratitude journal (or just record the interesting events of your day)

§  Meditate — spend time thinking of very little (go for a walk and just look at the colors or listen to the sounds, try yoga, etc)

§  Don’t give up!

§  Stop feeling guilty (think of masturbating as if you were still sucking a pacifier at night — you’d want to stop and it would take some work to overcome it, but you shouldn’t hate yourself for it while you fight it).

§  Get rid of any of your enablers

§  Be more social — the more you’re with others, the better off you’ll be

§  Find a new hobby — especially one that might serve others or involve others

§  Be patient with yourself

§  Find someone trustworthy that you can confide in and ask for support (a parent or a friend)

Some Motivational Piece 

Triggers

There are different kinds of triggers: external and internal. An external trigger might be spotting a racy billboard on the way to work or a seeing a plunging neckline. Learning to bounce our eyes away from these sort of triggers can be very helpful.

But it is our internal triggers that are the hardest to run from, because they are…well…in us.

Like the gentleman quoted above, the trigger might be stress. We might turn to masturbation as our refuge, our stress-reliever. Stress and anxiety ultimately come from our reactions to stressful situations or circumstances. Why do we react to stressors the way we do? We react with stress because of what we believe about the stressors, the significance we place on them. We need to ask ourselves: What do I believe that makes this situation or circumstance or condition stressful for me? Identify what lies you believe about the stressor and then diligently replace those lies with truth.

Our trigger might be envy. We might see our friends with their loving marital relationships and think: “I wish I was married,” or “I wish my marriage was more intimate.” We may turn to masturbation as a substitute for what we really want. Again, we must ask ourselves: What do I believe my sex drive is for? Is it to grasp at selfish pleasure, or is to pursue oneness in marriage?

Our trigger might be anger at God. Perhaps we are dissatisfied at the way our life has turned out, so we blame God. We turn to masturbation as our own private activity that grasps for a pleasure all our own, a corner of life we claim as wholly ours, a way to rebel. Again, the battle is one of faith: Why do we believe God owes us anything? Why do we think we ought to get what we desire?

The Body

Our sex drives will inevitably build up physical tension, but it is our reaction to that tension that matters most. What are we believing that makes masturbation seem like the only way to release the build-up of testosterone?

For single men God has created built in release mechanisms: either nocturnal emissions or absorption.

For married men God has provided sex as a means of marital intimacy. Do we believe these systems are God-given means of taking care of our bodily drives, or do we believe masturbation is the only way? We must repent of our beliefs about masturbation and praying for a non-sinful release of tension in our members.

Longings

For many sexual pleasure is the ultimate escape from reality. Like a drug, it provides a fantasy world where we can forget our sorrows or our boring lives. Instead of using masturbation as an escape from reality, we must learn the habit of escaping into reality, into God Himself. This, again, taps our faith.