How to Deal with Heartbreak | Get instant Freedom

1. Face your heartbreak head on. 

You've been hurt, and you feel sad. These are normal emotions, and you need to accept that they are happening. Don't lie to others, and yourself, by saying "I'm fine" when you are not. You may be able to push it down for a while, but something else will bring it up again, and you'll be worse off because you weren't honest with yourself


2.Release your negative thoughts. 

Avoid letting negative thoughts control your worldview. These include filtering, that is looking at only the negative aspects of your situation, and personalizing, blaming yourself entirely for what happened. Keep an eye on yourself to see if you are looking at your situation this way, and from there look for ways to avoid those negative thoughts.

• An excellent way to expel negative energy is to meditate. Put yourself in a comfortable seated position in a comfortable place, usually alone and away from distractions like television or other stimulating things. Breath deeply, and let your mind go by focusing on another object, repeating a mantra, or visualizing a peaceful place.

3.Cry. 

Crying is a good and healthy way to express extreme feelings, so if you feel like crying, let it out. Find a place where you can be alone, or with a good friend, and let the tears flow. It'll be over more quickly than you think, and you'll feel a little better afterward getting those emotions out.

• There are some places where that is inappropriate, public settings like a store or in class, so you'll want to be able to control your tears in public. Breathe deeply (in through your nose and out through your mouth), and blink a few times to control the tears. You can try to distract yourself with some kind of physical movement like squeezing a stress ball. If a few tears do slip out, cover them with a yawn, or blame something like allergies or feeling sick.

4. Find a Support Network

The isolation that follows a messy breakup can be wrenching. Yet heartbreak is arguably one of the most common experiences among the human race. Find someone you trust who is willing to let you confide in him or her. Some people choose a relative or close friend, while others prefer a professional counselor.

In addition to your primary support person, line up a few others as backup. You might not choose to confide everything in your secondary support lineup, but they should be reliable people who you can always call on when you are feeling overwhelmed. This gives your primary support person a break and helps you realize your own worth by showing you that you are valuable to others.

5. Try New Activities

We all make compromises when we are in a relationship. Are you a foodie, but your ex hated dining out? Perhaps you love dancing the night away, but your former partner was in bed by 9 p.m. Take advantage of your newfound freedom to try the things you had been putting off in deference to your partner.

If the two of you did everything together, this is the perfect time to learn to do things on your own. Book a solo trip to your favorite destination, take yourself out to dinner, or see a new movie. These activities remind you that you are a competent, capable person who does not need a partner to complete your life.

6. Be Kind to Yourself

No matter how strong or stoic you generally are, heartbreak is devastating. If you don’t give yourself time to work through it, you will end up suppressing feelings that could surface months or even years in the future. Be gentle with yourself rather than trying to soldier on like it doesn’t matter. Allow your feelings to come, and work through them rather than trying to stop them.

Cry in the shower, write angry letters to your ex (but don’t send them!), and get some extra sleep. Give yourself permission to listen to whatever music and watch whatever movies you choose, and make peace with the fact that the laundry or housekeeping might slide for awhile. Treat yourself as the valuable, important, worthwhile person you are, and soon you will start to realize that you deserve someone who will treat you equally well.

7.Remember that it is okay to feel sad

 In fact, it’s okay to feel a whole range of emotions, including sadness, confusion, and anger. The key is not to let those feelings affect your whole life. Do not try to numb yourself to the pain or swear off relationships forever. These activities will only hurt you in the long run. Instead, give yourself time to feel the hurt.

8.Examine your relationship 

Think about what went wrong, and why you two broke up. There is always a reason. Also think about what you liked in the relationship, and what things you would want to look for in a future partner. By working through these ideas, you can grow as a person, and find the right relationship later down the line.

• You may reach a point where you and your ex are comfortable becoming friends, but don't think too much about that early on. You need to give yourself space after the breakup